Chapter 3

 

Celibacy and Chastity

 

 

 

            Celibacy and chastity are synonyms, aren’t they?  The dictionary seems to have the same definitions for both.  If you look one up in a thesaurus, the other one comes up as a synonym.  That is like stating that something is redundant, and it says the same thing!

 

Lost in Translation

 

            Who would know more about things getting lost in translation than missionaries serving in places other than their passport culture?   Such missionaries are keenly aware of trying to explain the concepts of Christianity in cultures which may not even have such a concept, much less have a word for the concept.

Contemporary English has appropriated two different Latin words with different meanings and now uses those two words as synonyms.  This results in confusion between the two related concepts.  In requiring vows of celibacy for priests and nuns, the Roman Catholic Church also often got chastity as well.  However, when Western culture required celibacy of all adolescents, it did not get chastity nearly as often.

 

 

Celibacy

 

The word “celibate” is from the Latin celibatus, which literally means “a single life.”  By definition unmarried persons are celibate.  Dictionaries up to the middle of the 20th century typically defined “celibacy” as “an unmarried state; single life.”

Today’s dictionaries often still have that definition but usually add another definition which includes abstaining from sexual intercourse, and they give chastity as a synonym.  Encyclopedia Britannica online reads: “celibacy, the state of being unmarried and, therefore, sexually abstinent.”  Rather than propose a new word meaning “unmarried” I am using celibacy in its original meaning.  As you read please remember that celibacy means unmarried, nothing more.  I am married, so I am not celibate.  If you are unmarried you are celibate.

 

Chastity

 

            The word “chaste” is from the Latin castus which literally means “pure.”  Dictionaries up to the middle of the 20th century typically defined “chastity” as “not indulging in illicit sexual intercourse; virtuous.” 

            Today’s dictionaries often define it as purity, but add something about not being married.  Again, rather than propose a new word meaning “sexual purity,” I am using chastity in its original meaning.  While reading this, please remember that is the only meaning of the word.  Individuals may live in any of the following four states.

·         Neither celibate nor chaste: Married and engaging in illicit sexual intercourse.

·         Both celibate and chaste: Single and not engaging in sexual intercourse.

·         Celibate but not chaste: Single and engaging in sexual intercourse.

·         Chaste but not celibate: Married and engaging in sexual intercourse only with spouse.

 

Required Celibacy; not Chastity

 

            The “therefore” in the quote from Encyclopedia Britannica above is what people in Western cultures used to believe.  That is, if individuals were unmarried, they would be sexually abstinent.  Making this assumption, Legislators in many Western cultures raised the legal age at which people could marry, assuming that these young unmarried people would abstain from sexual intercourse.

            As we well know now, that often is not the case.  As reported in Public Health Reports the National Survey of Family Growth found in 2002 that by age 18 60% of the men and 54% of the women reported that they had experienced premarital sex.  These adolescents were nearly all unmarried (not old enough to legally marry), so they were living in celibacy but not chastity. 

People may not tell the full truth on surveys, but other data confirms that many unmarried people have sex.  The USA Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reported that in 41% of all births in 2008 were to unmarried women 15-44 years of age.  Those 1,700,000 women were living in celibacy, but they were not chaste.  They were unmarried, but they had illicit sexual intercourse.

            Sexually transmitted disease rates in the USA are at historic highs.  The CDC reported the rates of gonorrhea by age and sex and the highest rates of any group are women 15-19 years of age.  Many of those cases are gonorrhea of the pharynx contracted by these young women giving oral sex to their male friends.  These thousands of people are living in celibacy (illegal for them to marry until at least age 18) but not in chastity.

            When General Booth and other well-meaning people campaigned to have the minimum legal age of marriages raised to 16, it is unlikely that any of them anticipated that two of every five babies born in the USA would be to unmarried mothers.

 

Celibacy’s threats to Chastity

 

            Three times in 1 Corinthians 7 Paul mentioned that remaining unmarried could threaten one’s purity.

·         Since there is so much immorality both men and women should marry to have their own spouses (v. 2).

·         If people can’t control themselves, it is better to marry than to burn with passion (v. 9).

·         If a man believes he is acting improperly toward his fiancé who is getting older, it is good for him to marry her (v. 36).

 

What can we do?